The holiday season is officially upon us, starting with Thanksgiving tomorrow. There have been a few clients that have said to me this week that they know they should feel thankful for what they have but that their negative self talk creeps in. Why does that seem to happen more around the holidays? Is it something that we can change? Oh my goodness yes! Let's get into the state of thankful!
There are tools that I give to my clients that help them conquer the negative self talk, because let's face it when they are challenging themselves to do the hard work the negative talk tends to rear it's ugly head. Sometimes the holidays are challenging. I would like to give you a shortened version of two tools that I use, in hopes that you won't even need them this holiday season.
The first, I want you to picture this negative voice you hear as a troll. Make it as ugly as you want. Do you have it pictured? Next I want you to say to yourself that you aren't going to listen to the troll. Don't talk directly to the troll or acknowledge it, that gives it too much power. Next, I want you to throw or kick it as far away as you can. Like, really, really far away. It might try to come back, so you need to make the return trip hard. If it comes back, throw or kick it harder this time.
Secondly, now that this troll is gone, I want you to picture biggest thing in your life that you are thankful for. Maybe it's simply a family member smiling, a snuggle with a pet or the last chat you had with a friend. Maybe it's you. Every time you feel yourself engaging with the troll picture, what you are thankful for. You'll find that the troll has a hard time being heard when you focus on something positive. This is what the holiday season is about. Finding the little (or big) things to be thankful for about can be a game changer.
Did this help? I hope that it did.
This year, I'm thankful for my family, friends, neighbors, clients, the air I breathe, the ground beneath my feet, the changing season and YOU!
Would love to hear what you are thankful for this year. Comment below.